Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and it always gets me thinking about my relationship, love and how to keep the romance alive in my relationship. We all live such crazy busy lives that at times we tend to neglect our relationships and take things for-granted. We often get too busy to do those special little thoughtful gestures that we did in the beginning of our relationship to let our significant other know how much we cared about them and that we were thinking about them.
The question is, how do we keep the passion and romance alive? What can we do to make sure we are tuned in to our partner in a romantic way and not just as a bread winner, father, housekeeper etc.? Below are some of my ideas and suggestions that I have used over years to keep my honey happy and feel free to share yours too:
- Good Communication is essential to staying connected to your partner. Always tell your partner how you feel, what you want, what you need. He is not a mind reader!
- Make the Time for Romance Because we are all so busy, it is usually better if we schedule date nights or romantic time with our partners, otherwise we might forget. It seems simple and silly, but trust me, if you don’t plan for it, it probably won’t happen.
- Take Care of Yourself The women I know who exercise regularly and get enough sleep tend to have better sex lives than those that don’t. If you are healthy, you tend to feel better and look better too, which will totally get noticed by your partner. Plus, exercise releases endorphins which elevates your mood and makes you feel good and potentially more sexy.
- Try Something New Many of us get stuck in a rut in our relationships from time to time and we need to break out of it. Go some place new and different with your partner, have a spontaneous outing, surprise each other, or do something you have never done before. Novelty leads to excitement!
- Treats & Surprises I have been telling my husband for years to occasionally do something, say something, or plan something unexpected ‘just because.’ It can be something small like prepping a bubble bath or big like a spontaneous getaway. It doesn’t really matter what it is, it’s really just a gesture that comes from your partner without telling them to do so.
So try to look at Valentine’s Day as a time to get a romantic tune-up. Go in for ‘service’ and fix what is not working and add in some new things to improve your romantic ‘systems’. Refreshing and Investing in your relationship is the best present of all!